daddyluvshisgirl:

Today I’m going to try to shed light on some of the more troublesome areas of being a Daddy in order to educate new Daddys and avoid any potential harm to their littles.

As a Daddy we are responsible for maintaining our little’s emotional health. We all know that, it’s on page one of the Daddy handbook.

However, it will take some time and a bit of trial and error to know exactly what that means. Have no fear new Daddys of the world, I’m going to try to explain as much as I can now.

To me, the first and most important thing to learn, understand and ETCH into your brain is that even though you are technically in a BDSM relationship, and you are the Dominant, that does not automatically preclude any sort of Bondage, Sadism or Masochism. This is very important to remember.

YOU NEED TO ASK your little what they are in to, YOU NEED TO LISTEN to your little when they tell you and YOU NEED TO RESPECT their boundaries. Yes, being a Dom is about pushing limits and helping your submissive explore things that may frighten them, but in a DD/lg relationship this means walking a fine line.

Your little is a little for a variety of very personal reasons and it is important that you respect the trust that they have shown in you by allowing themselves to be volume able in that way.

Next, being a Daddy isn’t all about standing around with a hard-on and ordering submissives to blow you. A lg is a special sort of submissive that, usually, will extend past the bedroom door. In my experience, lg’s are as such all day long.

This means that they are going to be looking to you for guidance many, if not most, other parts of their lives. They may need you to help them schedule appointments, drive them to the doctor, remind them when to take medications, help them bathe.

It’s important that you know, this just comes with the territory. If you’re not the kind of person who can see themselves running your own life while simultaneously running someone else’s, you may want to rethink this route.

It’s rewarding in many ways, but it can be very difficult. You need to be a leader, emotionally resilient, tireless and motivated.

This takes me to my final, AND MOST IMPORTANT, point, an lg will look to you to set the emotional tone. Take a second to let that sink in to your brain. This means that whatever mood or emotion that you are projecting, your little is going to pick up on it and adopt it as their own.

In other words, if you come around crabby, sad, upset, whatever, your little will now become that as well, which adds a very thick layer of complexity.

TIME TO THINK:

Run this scenario through your head: You spend several hours attending to mundane tasks regarding you littles life. Doctors visits, laundry, hygiene and so on. Your tired. Your stressed.

Can you put all that aside and project calm happiness?

Now imagine your on day five, ten, twenty. Still able to do it?

I’m really not trying to scare you off. Being a DD is amazing and is very rewarding. I do think it’s important for everyone to be as informed as possible beforehand, though, as it will help avoid a lot of emotional strife down the road.